When You’re Always the Busy One

There’s a saying I’ve heard so many times:
“If you need something done, ask a busy person.”

And I’ve never related more.

I’m a full-time teacher. I run Balance + Tranquility. I’m a mom to two boys who play competitive sports. I sit on the baseball executive and manage a team. My calendar is colour-coded chaos. My life is full—of good things, meaningful things—but still… full.

And here’s the truth: sometimes I feel like I’m not doing it all as well as I want to.

I try to make space for myself. I know how important that is. But the space gets crowded fast. When something comes off my plate, I don’t pause—I add something else. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to just… be.

Floating, the thing I now recommend to everyone, was hard for me at first. Sitting in the Salt Cave for an hour with nothing to do? Guilt. Resting while my to-do list waited? Almost unbearable.

But I’m learning.

Slowly, I’m understanding that if I don’t create time to take care of myself, I’ll be forced to later—by burnout, by illness, by something breaking down.

And I’m learning that my boys are watching. I’m teaching them how to care for themselves not just by what I say, but by what I do.

I don’t get it right every day. I still feel the pull to be everything, do everything, handle everything.

But I’m trying.

Trying to honour my needs, not just meet others’.

Trying to rest before I need to.

Trying to rewrite that old saying—not because I don’t get things done, but because I know I deserve to feel good doing them.

And maybe you do too.